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In
our society where the paradigm is often to mimic 'same' or 'common denominator'
behaviour, the transformation into personal authenticity may well look like a mental
breakdown.
And what is wrong with that, if done in a fully conscious and lovingly
supported way? Does it actually take the 'breakdown' of an old paradigm to
create meaningful change in our own evolution? Do we have to be defiant
(or just bloody stubborn) in order to be who we are? Are societal values doing
everything in their path, with their associated labels and marginalisation, to
consistently uphold the suffocation of a whole self? And do we conform to this
programming?
Like
Marianne Williamson so eloquently says, "Our deepest fear is not
that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond
measure."
If what you are going through right now feels like a
breakdown (and this might feel like a constant inner nagging, stress or
anxiety), it may well be but let's not assume that is a bad thing. You can
approach these feelings in alternative ways to ease the path a little.
You might be meeting your own resistance to an inner desire for change.
(This is a deep and complex
conversation and this article can only attempt to skim the surface for now.
Personal transformation takes dedication and process which I won't fully expand
on here but which I am willing to teach you.)
Re-engineering old paradigms that no longer serve you can throw up a lot of confusion
as you sort through and re-organise your core values and beliefs. This is a
long process of awakening which, if unsupported can trigger some fear and
resistance to change.
Who are you? I mean - really - who ARE you right now - at this point in your
life?
Try this - Write two paragraph's. Write the first on who you are right now.
Don't write about what you do, write about who you ARE, your beliefs, your
values, how you judge others, what you tolerate, or not. Write the second
paragraph on who you deeply sense you could be; the truest version of you
that's visible now.
As you write these two paragraphs you may begin to sense some tension arising.
This is counterpart dissonance. Sit with this - don't avoid it. Tension holds
answers. If tension leads to tears, sadness, regret or rage then sit with it.
Breathe through it (witness, take notes, don't judge) and observe what it is
telling you without plummeting its depths. You are in control. Abseil -
don't dive!
Repeat this exercise regularly and witness the changes and transformation that
holding an intention to be authentic can create. See how the two versions
slowly move closer together as they regulate and re-calibrate to a
single output. Raise your glass high and begin to celebrate YOU!
"Being still and intimately experiencing yourself helps self importance to realise that there is life under every rock that doesn't need a witness to know it exists."
Being True and Authentic,
without the need for permission from another reminds me of a scene from the
film MIB (Men in Black) and it's the alien arrivals lounge, where being
authentic means being
different, no matter how 'weird' that might feel or look to another. It's
living with, being comfortable with and embracing your most natural self, regardless of the opinions of another. Ask
either of my children and they will both say I fly my freak flag high!
Maybe no one told you how hard being authentic in this homogenised world was
going to be; how it would physically hurt every fibre of your being as you
challenge some deeply held beliefs while examining who they actually belong to.
And, as you separate out the layers of contextual material, re-assigning each
to its rightful owner, you begin to reveal the real you. The you that existed
at birth, before your behavioural programming began, before you became someone
else's blueprint.
This transformation into original (and sometimes non-conforming) behaviour can
be isolating if you don't build your support network. Surround yourself
with like minded souls who can echo and mirror where you are back to you, who are strong enough to refuse to do so when you become needy of approval and
who can tell you when you're simply being a dick! Without good support, this journey back to authentic core may well feel like a breakdown and not in a healthy way.
The practice of living authentically isn't abundant (yet) on this planet and
for you to get this far in your personal evolution is no mean feat.
Seriously, look in the mirror and lovingly support your decisions so far.
I look around me at the highly gifted, courageous people I get to walk
this life with and I'm so grateful that I am not alone.
Be assured that like attracts like and when our energetic patterns shift, align
and intersect, the gravity of intention pulls us all, inexorably toward one another
and back into the connected-ness of 'One'.
Thank you to my great support network - I wouldn't be here without you.
C xxxxx
In our society where the paradigm is often to mimic 'same' or 'common denominator' behaviour, the transformation into personal authenticity may well look like a mental breakdown.
And what is wrong with that, if done in a fully conscious and lovingly
supported way? Does it actually take the 'breakdown' of an old paradigm to
create meaningful change in our own evolution? Do we have to be defiant
(or just bloody stubborn) in order to be who we are? Are societal values doing
everything in their path, with their associated labels and marginalisation, to
consistently uphold the suffocation of a whole self? And do we conform to this
programming?
Like
Marianne Williamson so eloquently says, "Our deepest fear is not
that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond
measure."
If what you are going through right now feels like a breakdown (and this might feel like a constant inner nagging, stress or anxiety), it may well be but let's not assume that is a bad thing. You can approach these feelings in alternative ways to ease the path a little. You might be meeting your own resistance to an inner desire for change.
(This is a deep and complex
conversation and this article can only attempt to skim the surface for now.
Personal transformation takes dedication and process which I won't fully expand
on here but which I am willing to teach you.)
Re-engineering old paradigms that no longer serve you can throw up a lot of confusion as you sort through and re-organise your core values and beliefs. This is a long process of awakening which, if unsupported can trigger some fear and resistance to change.
Who are you? I mean - really - who ARE you right now - at this point in your life?
Try this - Write two paragraph's. Write the first on who you are right now. Don't write about what you do, write about who you ARE, your beliefs, your values, how you judge others, what you tolerate, or not. Write the second paragraph on who you deeply sense you could be; the truest version of you that's visible now.
As you write these two paragraphs you may begin to sense some tension arising. This is counterpart dissonance. Sit with this - don't avoid it. Tension holds answers. If tension leads to tears, sadness, regret or rage then sit with it. Breathe through it (witness, take notes, don't judge) and observe what it is telling you without plummeting its depths. You are in control. Abseil - don't dive!
Repeat this exercise regularly and witness the changes and transformation that holding an intention to be authentic can create. See how the two versions slowly move closer together as they regulate and re-calibrate to a single output. Raise your glass high and begin to celebrate YOU!
"Being still and intimately experiencing yourself helps self importance to realise that there is life under every rock that doesn't need a witness to know it exists."
Being True and Authentic, without the need for permission from another reminds me of a scene from the film MIB (Men in Black) and it's the alien arrivals lounge, where being authentic means being different, no matter how 'weird' that might feel or look to another. It's living with, being comfortable with and embracing your most natural self, regardless of the opinions of another. Ask either of my children and they will both say I fly my freak flag high!
Maybe no one told you how hard being authentic in this homogenised world was going to be; how it would physically hurt every fibre of your being as you challenge some deeply held beliefs while examining who they actually belong to. And, as you separate out the layers of contextual material, re-assigning each to its rightful owner, you begin to reveal the real you. The you that existed at birth, before your behavioural programming began, before you became someone else's blueprint.
This transformation into original (and sometimes non-conforming) behaviour can be isolating if you don't build your support network. Surround yourself with like minded souls who can echo and mirror where you are back to you, who are strong enough to refuse to do so when you become needy of approval and who can tell you when you're simply being a dick! Without good support, this journey back to authentic core may well feel like a breakdown and not in a healthy way.
The practice of living authentically isn't abundant (yet) on this planet and for you to get this far in your personal evolution is no mean feat. Seriously, look in the mirror and lovingly support your decisions so far. I look around me at the highly gifted, courageous people I get to walk this life with and I'm so grateful that I am not alone.
Be assured that like attracts like and when our energetic patterns shift, align and intersect, the gravity of intention pulls us all, inexorably toward one another and back into the connected-ness of 'One'.
Thank you to my great support network - I wouldn't be here without you.
C xxxxx
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